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Freshman Year (HBCU) Advice

My classmates and I at graduation in 2013. I am standing on the far right.

In 2009, I graduated from a small private predominately white high school and in 2013 I graduated from a historically black college, Fort Valley State University. These two totally “different worlds” and school experiences have shaped who I am and who I am becoming. I wanted to share my knowledge of being a former student leader for freshman year students. Listen or watch the podcast below and check out the list of advice below. Do you have any advice you’d give a new college student?

Listen to the podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and Anchor
Watch on The As-I-Amber Podcast now on YouTube

ADVICE FOR FRESHMAN YEAR:
1. Establish rules and communicate early on with your roommate(s). Y’all don’t have to be best friends, but you live together now so respect people’s things and have boundaries.
2. Please be yourself and talk to people you don’t already know.
3. If you’re feeling down and need someone to talk to go seek out your university’s infirmary and seek free counseling if available.
4. I know it’s a new environment, but try not to go home every weekend and try not to stay in your dorm all day.
5. If you have a car make sure to get a parking decal asap!
6. If you have a car make sure you’re not being used by others who won’t even give you gas money or say thank you for giving them a ride.
7. There’s pros and cons to everything. In my opinion if you’re not a morning person don’t take an 8 A.M. class or maybe you are a morning person, so take the class and get it over with and have the rest of the day to yourself.
8. Check out websites like Chegg and Google other book rental sites before going to the bookstore.
9. When dealing with advisors, professors, financial aid, etc. make a copy of everything they give you. Keep your receipts and emails!
10. Figure out what campus activities or clubs fit your personality.
11. If you are interested in a historically black fraternity or sorority do not tell everybody. Focus on your grades and community service.
12. Be careful about what you post on social media. There is life after college and future employers look at that.
13. If you have an online class or have to upload an assignment online upload it early because sometimes depending on where you are or what time of day it is the WiFi won’t be as strong.
14. If you don’t understand something or need extra help seek out a tutor and go to your professor during their office hours to ask questions or get clarity on something you didn’t understand during the lecture.
15. Try to call or text your parent(s) at least once every few weeks and not only when you need or want something.
16. Focus on your required classes before permanently choosing a major. So if you choose to change majors you won’t lose so many credits.
17. Talk to your academic advisor. This person is vital in helping you know what classes you need to take in order to graduate on time.
18. Go to class and try your best to sit up front and take notes.
19. Get a part time job. It’s nice to have money in your pockets and good to have work experience.
20. Take advantage of free things your campus may offer.
21. Invest in a good umbrella and get some rain boots because when it rains on campus at FVSU it poured down!
22. I know the cafeteria has various food options, but try to eat healthy when you can. Don’t forget to try to get at least 6 to 8 hours of sleep a night.
23. Get involved in the community and city your college is in.
24. Go to the library and study there.

25. Study Hard, but Play Hard. Enjoy your college years and cherish the moments!

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That time I met Ms. Susan L. Taylor.

Happy Birthday to the legendary Ms. Susan L. Taylor. Years ago I had the opportunity to meet the former editor-in-chief of ESSENCE magazine, Susan L. Taylor, at my alma mater, Fort Valley State University. She was so kind and spoke about the importance of mentoring and taking care of  your mind, body, and soul. The other day I was going through some old emails and stumbled across the notes I wrote down years ago when she spoke and I felt like sharing them with you all because they are still relevant today.

  • Sometimes you have to shut up and listen.
  • When you wake up in the morning smile and thank God.
  • Be a lifelong learner. College is about exploring.
  • Be personal and write handwritten thank you notes. Call people and remember birthdays.
  • Be kind to your parents.
  • Fire your inner critic who says what people say.
  • Know how to accept constructive criticism that can help you, not knock you down.
  • Read more books and expand your vocabulary.
  • Watch the company you keep.
  • Learn how to be your own best friend.
  • Your body is a temple: Before you sleep with someone think about them being stuck in your life forever.
  • Someone should love you for who you are.
  • Have a ten minute quiet time. (NO computer, NO music, NO phone)
  • Life is change don’t be an empty vessel.
  • If you do not know your history, you do not know who you are.
  • People judge you on your grammar and speech.
  • Elders need to know when to let young generations take reign.
  • The song “Lift Every Voice and Sing” is a powerful song with meaning and paved the way for us now. Lets not take it for granted.
  • Everyone is not a Christian or your religion, have tolerance.
  • Anything that is known is knowable.
  • You are a divine original and have a unique life.
  • Everything in magazines and pictures are edited and Photoshopped.
  • Celebrities and models have flaws and problems..
  • Exercise 20 minutes a day, be healthy, not necessarily a certain body size.]
  • Love Yourself first.
  • Have walk on water faith.
  • Mentor to young children in your community and help them with their reading skills.
  • Sometimes you can physically be here, but mentally elsewhere, so take one thing at a time.
  • Every time you are drunk or high you are eroding brain cells.
  • Know who you are and dream big.
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Grandmother

Amber and her grandmother chat about life on the latest episode of “The As-I-Amber” Podcast.

Listen now on www.anchor.fm/asiamber or click the link below to listen on Spotify. Also, available on Apple Podcasts and other podcast platforms.

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#OTRII Tour Atlanta Night One was LIT! (2018)

The Saturday show of the Atlanta stop of the On The Run II Tour at Mercedes Benz Stadium was crazy. After Jay-Z and Beyoncé performed the last song of the night, “APE S#!T“, a random man from the audience hopped on stage and tried to follow them until some of the dancers ran after him and fought him. I have no idea why or how this person was able to get access to the stage! Where was Security?! I have no idea, but I just hope Queen Bey and Jay-Z are safe.

Before the shenanigans at the end of the show happened there was an opening act before The Carters performed. At 7:30pm Chloe and Halle, a young singing duo from Atlanta, who are on the television show “grownish” and on Beyoncé’s Parkwood Entertainment label were the opening act. They performed songs from their “The Kids are Alright” album and in my opinion did great singing and playing instruments.

After Chloe and Halle performed DJ Khaled came out to hype the crowd up and brought out special guests such as Monica, Cee Lo, Ludacris, and Jermaine Dupri. The diverse and excited sold out crowd went crazy as each guest performed.

At around 8:50pm the stadium went dark and the screens lit up and everyone in the diverse crowd started screaming loudly because Jay-Z and Beyoncé were about to come on stage!!!!

This was my fourth time seeing Beyoncé in concert and every time I’ve attended one of her concerts the energy in the stadium is electric! It feels like your favorite team winning a championship game and being a kid on Christmas all in one. Maybe I’m biased because I’m in “The Beyhive”, but I’ve never been disappointed with her performances even Jay-Z held his own and did well! Beyoncé’s stamina and physique, especially after recently giving birth to twins is amazing.

The Carters performed their hits such as “Crazy in Love”, “‘03 Bonnie and Clyde”, “Deja Vu”, “Upgrade U”, “NICE”, and “Black Effect”. I also enjoyed how the set list mashed up some of their individual hit songs. For example Jay-Z’s “Clique” mixed in with Beyoncé’s “Diva” sounded amazing. Beyoncé performed “Drunk in Love” and it was mixed with F.L.Y.’s “Swag Surfin'” and some of the crowd started swag surfing with Beyoncé. Also, Beyoncè danced to O.T. Genesis’, “Everybody Mad“, which she also performed back in April at the Coachella music festival. Jay -Z performed songs off his recent “4:44” album such as “Family Feud” and “The Story of OJ”. He also performed older hits such as “Dirt off Your Shoulder”, “99 Problems”, “Big Pimpin’”, and “Song Cry”.

The concert went through the highs and lows of The Carters married relationship from infidelity to forgiveness and family. Beyoncé and Jay -Z changed outfits multiple times during the show. One of Jay-Z’s standout outfits was when he wore a bandana around his head and jacket with a glittery black panther on the back. A standout outfit for Beyoncé was when she went from a white and silver sparkle jumpsuit, then a black leather leotard, then to a golden yellow gown with a golden yellow train to perform the emotional relationship song “Resentment”. Other standout songs were when Beyoncé performed the female empowerment anthem “Run the World” , Formation”, as well as “Flawless”. As she performed “Flawless” you could read the screens and hear audio from author, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, talking about feminism and how society puts women against one another instead of working together and being confident.

Another stand out performance was when Jay-Z performed “The Story of OJ”, which samples singer Nina Simone’s “Four Women”. As Jay-Z performed this song various black and white cartoon images and mugshots from different activists and rappers and entertainers were seen on the screen.

My favorite part of the show was when Jay-Z and Beyoncé performed “Family Feud”, which samples The Clark Sisters’ gospel song, “He-ya”. When Beyoncé was on the stage singing the lyric “Heya” , which means eternal life, the stage literally rose up and moved across the stadium and the audience went crazy. It was so cool to me.

I loved the set design and the set list and attention to detail from the co-ed band, the multiple dancers, and the theme of going and running through the ups and downs of life. Overall, I give the show an A plus! I’m not sure if Beyoncé and Jay-Z will ever retire or if they will ever go back on tour together, but if you ever have an opportunity to attend one of their concerts you should most definitely go. Hopefully the concert will be on DVD or come on HBO like the first “On The Run” Tour did. Check out http://www.beyonce.com for more information and pictures from various cities they’ve toured.

Check out the Spotify Setlist Playlist below and click here for Apple Music & Tidal.

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That time I met Ms. Susan L. Taylor.

Happy Birthday to the legendary Ms. Susan L. Taylor. Years ago I had the opportunity to meet the former editor-in-chief of ESSENCE magazine, Susan L. Taylor, at my alma mater, Fort Valley State University. She was so kind and spoke about the importance of mentoring and taking care of  your mind, body, and soul. The other day I was going through some old emails and stumbled across the notes I wrote down years ago when she spoke and I felt like sharing them with you all because they are still relevant today.

  • Sometimes you have to shut up and listen.
  • When you wake up in the morning smile and thank God.
  • Be a lifelong learner. College is about exploring.
  • Be personal and write handwritten thank you notes. Call people and remember birthdays.
  • Be kind to your parents.
  • Fire your inner critic who says what people say.
  • Know how to accept constructive criticism that can help you, not knock you down.
  • Read more books and expand your vocabulary.
  • Watch the company you keep.
  • Learn how to be your own best friend.
  • Your body is a temple: Before you sleep with someone think about them being stuck in your life forever.
  • Someone should love you for who you are.
  • Have a ten minute quiet time. (NO computer, NO music, NO phone)
  • Life is change don’t be an empty vessel.
  • If you do not know your history, you do not know who you are.
  • People judge you on your grammar and speech.
  • Elders need to know when to let young generations take reign.
  • The song “Lift Every Voce and Sing” is a powerful song with meaning and paved the way for us now. Lets not take it for granted.
  • Everyone is not a Christian or your religion, have tolerance.
  • Anything that is known is knowable.
  • You are a divine original and have a unique life.
  • Everything in magazines and pictures are edited and Photoshopped.
  • Celebrities and models have flaws and problems..
  • Exercise 20 minutes a day, be healthy, not necessarily a certain body size.]
  • Love Yourself first.
  • Have walk on water faith.
  • Mentor to young children in your community and help them with their reading skills.
  • Sometimes you can physically be here, but mentally elsewhere, so take one thing at a time.
  • Every time you are drunk or high you are eroding brain cells.
  • Know who you are and dream big.
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College Tips for Freshman Year

I graduated from a small predominately white high school in 2009 and graduated from a historically black college, Fort Valley State University, in 2013. These two totally different school experiences have shaped who I am as a person and I wouldn’t be who I am without them. As a former college student leader I wanted to share some tips for new students; especially first generation college students to give them some guidance.

Here’s a picture of some of my classmates and I at graduation in 2013. I am standing up on the far right/end.

ADVICE FOR FRESHMAN YEAR:
1. Establish rules and communicate early on with your roommate(s). Y’all don’t have to be best friends, but you live together now so respect people’s things and have boundaries.
2. Please be yourself and talk to people you don’t already know.
3. If you’re feeling down and need someone to talk to go seek out your university’s infirmary and seek free counseling if available.
4. I know it’s a new environment, but try not to go home every weekend and try not to stay in your dorm all day.
5. If you have a car make sure to get a parking decal asap!
6. If you have a car make sure you’re not being used by others who won’t even give you gas money or say thank you for giving them a ride.
7. There’s pros and cons to everything. In my opinion if you’re not a morning person don’t take an 8 A.M. class or maybe you are a morning person, so take the class and get it over with and have the rest of the day to yourself.
8. Check out websites like Chegg and Google other book rental sites before going to the bookstore.
9. When dealing with advisors, professors, financial aid, etc. make a copy of everything they give you. Keep your receipts and emails!
10. Figure out what campus activities or clubs fit your personality.
11. If you are interested in a historically black fraternity or sorority do not tell everybody. Focus on your grades and community service.
12. Be careful about what you post on social media. There is life after college and future employers look at that.
13. If you have an online class or have to upload an assignment online upload it early because sometimes depending on where you are or what time of day it is the WiFi won’t be as strong.
14. If you don’t understand something or need extra help seek out a tutor and go to your professor during their office hours to ask questions or get clarity on something you didn’t understand during the lecture.
15. Try to call or text your parent(s) at least once every few weeks and not only when you need or want something.
16. Focus on your required classes before permanently choosing a major. So if you choose to change majors you won’t lose so many credits.
17. Talk to your academic advisor. This person is vital in helping you know what classes you need to take in order to graduate on time.
18. Go to class and try your best to sit up front and take notes.
19. Get a part time job. It’s nice to have money in your pockets and good to have work experience.
20. Take advantage of free things your campus may offer.
21. Invest in a good umbrella and get some rain boots because when it rains on campus at FVSU it poured down!
22. I know the cafeteria has various food options, but try to eat healthy when you can. Don’t forget to try to get at least 6 to 8 hours of sleep a night.
23. Get involved in the community and city your college is in.
24. Go to the library and study there.

25. Study Hard, but Play Hard. Enjoy your college years and cherish the moments!

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